Monday, May 26, 2014

Random Stuff

Some randomness for you as you enjoy your long weekend and remember our veterans. 

1.  Can anyone tell me when (or why) the word I used to know as "yeah" or "yea" become "yah"?  I realize this sounds a bit like Dad, but taking the "e" out of that word also takes the "e" sound out of it, correct?  So, for me, "yah" should sound like the German word for yes: Ja.  (Shout out to Emmy).  It bugs me when I see this.  Let's put the e back into circulation when we are cheering.

2.  Overheard yesterday:  "Could you take a selfie of me standing over here?"  Hmmm.....(again sounding like Dad)....shouldn't a selfie be taken by the "self" involved????  I wanted to scream the same thing that woman in one of the insurance commercial says:  "It doesn't work like that.  None of this works like that."

3.  Speaking of Dad, I was thinking of him as I was madly trimming overgrown bushes in the garden this weekend.  Before I knew it, it was down to its nubs but it seemed like the thing to do.  Now I get it, Dad.  I do. 

4.  Those bushes I was trimming to their bases are spirea bushes.  I believe those are the kinds of bushes we had outside the front window on Dennison Road.  They had pretty white flowers and I wanted the same for my own house.  I wasn't able to find the white ones, but I did plant other varieties.  Recently I read this article that suggested that spirea was "old school". 

I believe our Dennison Road spirea came with the house, and Dad may have tried to kill them.  But I am the one that wants to bring it back to my own life.  Interestingly, those bushes I trimmed to their nubs had a tag at the base that I found when I made my way there.  Spirea.  Now nubs in my garden.

Thursday, May 22, 2014

Bam!

I have made it my mission lately to try to "close the door" on the open-ended ancestors' lives.  There are no fewer than 820 living relatives currently in the family tree.  Of course, a number of these are people like you and I.  And then there are those who probably died over 100 years ago.  And I'd like to close that door by finding the death information for these people thereby lowering that number of living relatives to something closer to a reasonable number such as those you might invite to a wedding. When I find a death date and enter it into the family tree, I exclaim "BAM!" out loud.  Even when alone.  Retirement allows me many more opportunities for "BAM!" than ever before.  (I'm not sure that came out the way I intended)

I randomly select one of those living relatives that should be long-dead and start looking.  Pretty soon I'm wandering down a tangled road of maybe and perhaps and uncovering potential stories.  Sometimes I get lost and forget to blog. 

I thought you might be semi-interested in one such story.  Grampie Brown (Nanny Flynn's grandfather) had 5 brothers and sisters.  He had one older sister Drusilla and one younger brother Walter along with three younger sisters Jane, Elizabeth and Ida.  This family lived primarily in Buffalo until the children became adults.
Drusilla, Jane, Elizabeth, Ida and Grampie are all accounted for with full stories from birth to death. 

But Walter does not and he has bothered me for a long time.  I want to find his story, but Walter Brown is a fairly common name especially in a city like Buffalo NY.  Two of the sisters married and lived in Michigan.  Michigan is much more open than New York in sharing vital records like marriage, death and cemetery records so I was able to track them even though females are harder because you may not know their married names.  I was lucky to obtain their father's will which listed each of the children and their residence at the time. 

Furthermore, I was lucky that the youngest daughter Ida married a man with an unusual name Ivah Bradt.  They lived in Ellicottville and their mother lived with them after her husband died. Take note of this tidbit from the Ellicottville NY Post April 1889:
Take note of station agent I.N. Bradt losing his goose.  These people had a hard time keeping track of their geese (maybe you remember another lost goose during the Civil War period.....and maybe you don't).

Anyhow, my laser-focused attention on Walter's life has not produced anything definitive yet.  He might have married a Sarah Armstrong and lived in Buffalo himself.  Or it was another Walter Brown.  Sigh.  I'm going to put Walter aside and try for another "BAM!"  See you on the other side.






Tuesday, May 6, 2014

I have just returned from a quick visit to Erie to see Amy and help with some wedding planning.  I thought this would be a good time to update you all as well so you could plan appropriately.  Amy's wedding to Michael Heisler will be held in the Erie PA area in August 2015.  Although the venue has not been confirmed, she is planning to be married Sunday Aug 16 2015.  So--yes, the wedding is in Erie PA on a Sunday in August.

She is debating between two venues.  Nick's Place and the Ambassador Center.  I think you can get a hint from their names of the major differences between the two sites.  She has some tough decisions to make in this regard!!!

Nick's Place is 15-20 minutes from Erie closer to Edinboro (a college town).  If she chooses Nick's Place, we would probably arrange for rooms at a Comfort Inn in Edinboro as well as for rooms in Erie PA for those that might prefer to be closer to the highway and city life.

The Ambassador Center is conveniently located just off the highway in Erie and has two hotels available at the site.  If she selects the Ambassador Center, the reception would be held from 6-10 PM as per their policy.

In either case, it is her intention to hold the ceremony at the reception venue.  We understand this is both long into the future as well as a long trip for most of you so I wanted to get the word out for you to start thinking about your plans.  If you are interested in what goes on in Erie PA, check out www.visiterie.com 

Wedding planning is stressful for all as it tends to say a great deal about the personalities of the couple while at the same time attempting to appease the interests of the families involved.  Amy told me her main focus will be on making the day wonderful for her guests.  I remain uncertain of how to behave as a future mother-in-law.  When you have children, there are some helpful guidelines provided for how to be a good parent.  Not so much in this world of in-lawing.


Of course, this all brings to mind other Ryan weddings.  I think about what Mom and Dad must have been feeling.  It wasn't new to them as it is for us, but each child and spouse carry their own weight with their parents and in laws. However, to keep tradition alive, we will try to remember to provide a scoreboard to keep track of favorite uncle points :)

Monday, April 28, 2014

School Days

I recently found Mary Jane's kindergarten report card and gave it to Jessie to share with her sisters.  I think Mary Jane had Mrs. Rocker and so did I.  It got me to thinking about my days in school.  I think I can remember all of my elementary teachers.  I have memories of each year which I cherish. 

Although I don't remember it, the story goes that I missed my first day of kindergarten due to poison ivy.  This would have been the fall of 1961 when grades K-2 were housed in the Babcock School .  I think I remember the kindergarten rooms were to the right after you entered the building.  I kind of remember the cubbies and the general layout of the room.  Perhaps I was a little sickly because the story is also told that I missed the Valentine's Day party that year and Russell Stebbins (and his mother) delivered my valentines to me at home.  I do remember that Russell was my boyfriend that year. 

First grade was Mrs. Millar.  Maybe because it was the way things were done then, Mrs. Millar tried to get me to use my right hand to write but Mom insisted I be allowed to use my left hand.  I can recall the Dick and Jane books and that there was a word that appeared in the title of the next chapter that I did not recognize.  I saw that word on television that night and asked what it was--it was something like "too"--and I felt extraordinarily proud of myself for figuring that out before we got to that next chapter.  In later years, I babysat for the Millar family.  I think they had a lumber yard.

Second grade was Mrs. Smith.  I remember reading groups were called by bird names--I think I was a Bluebird.  We did clock faces and clock faces and clock faces to learn to tell time.  I guess all that needs to be done today is to teach students to recognize numbers.  Reading a clock is becoming a lost art. 

For third grade, you moved to the Main Street school.  I had Mrs. Lesso.  I think she was Mrs. Smith's sister.  My outstanding memory from that year is returning to school with my first pair of glasses.  I clearly remember being able to see every minute mark on the wall clock.  We must have had lockers because I remember standing outside the classoom looking down the hallway into the room with my new glasses and being able to see so clearly!!!

In fourth grade I had Mrs. Moore.  I liked her a great deal.  She had kind of a deep gravelly voice.  I'm friends on Facebook with her daughter Darra.  I think they lived on Olive Street across from the house we lived in before we moved to Dennison Road.  We did lots of math that year.

Mrs. Langer was my fifth grade teacher and those rooms were upstairs.  I shared a locker with (probably) the only black girl in the school.  I thought that was pretty special.  I remember I had trouble with the word vineyard one day and Mrs. Langer gave me the hint that we had them all around our house so I could come up with the right word.  Today I realize this means she knew where we lived and now I know that our house was on the very edge of the district, I wonder how she knew.  Her husband was a science teacher in the high school.  That was the year that I was apparently chosen to participate in chorus but somehow never knew that and I was asked why I wasn't attending the rehearsals.  Can you imagine anyone choosing me for chorus?  Maybe it's a false memory........but I don't think so.

Miss Sullivan was my 6th grade teacher and no one wanted mean old Miss Sullivan.  I remember we were assigned some kind of project--I think it might have been ancient civilizations.  We were given these packets of stuff to present to the class about the topic.  It was brand spanking new stuff and I loved that.  Miss Sullivan told me I'd be presenting first.  Too bad I can't quite recall the actual topic.  I do remember being very jealous of Sheree Restivo (first of all--what an exotic name) because she wore STOCKINGS and they made her legs look so soft.  I really wanted my legs to look soft like that but Mom's rule was no stockings til Confirmation.  Now my legs look soft without stockings. 

The Babcock Elementary was completed in 1952 so it was still a fairly new building when we went through there.  In 1986 it became apartments.  I'm not sure what is there today.  The Main Street school building still stands though it is in very rough shape.  Sometimes when I have trouble falling asleep, I walk myself through that building from classroom to classroom and office in my memory.  Mr. Hall was the principal and Paula made her debut on the stage in that auditorium, if memory serves correctly.  It was in that auditorium that we were gathered to be informed of the results of our music tests to see what instruments we might be best suited for.  Clarinet for me.  Short lived career.

It had previously served as the high school.  There was a big parking lot behind the building that faced the elementary school so these buildings were very close to each other. 

I know some of you don't have these specific Silver Creek school memories, but I hope you have some memories of the years you spent in school that bring smiles to your face every now and then.

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Mary Jane on her 52nd birthday

Wow!  That looks weird, right?  Mary Jane would have been 52 today.  As always, I am thinking of her on her birthday.  As I was contemplating her upcoming birthday earlier this week, I realized that bringing Mary Jane to mind no longer automatically starts the teary eyes going.  I find myself smiling more often than crying when I think of her.  I'm OK with that.  It took a very long time for me to get there and it's not that I don't miss her, but I guess it's taken all these years to process it.  I suppose it could also be part of my new (retired) stage of life but I'd prefer to think it is just a normal part of processing the loss. 

Here are some pictures you may not have seen recently:

I really like this picture.  Makes me miss Weenie too.

Another classic in the collection.

Taylor napping with Mom

Mary Jane with flowers growing out of her head.

Anyhow, cheers to Mary Jane.  We'll be going to Gloucester for the Easter weekend, which has become our tradition so Happy Easter to you all as well.  I hope it will be springlike wherever you are.

Friday, April 4, 2014

Longing for Gloucester



Ahh......I think we all relish any time we get to spend in Gloucester.  For me, there's an undeniable pull drawing me back there again and again.  Lucky for me, Jim loves it as much as I do.  Easter is approaching and it has been our tradition to spend it in Gloucester with that branch of the family.  This year we will only be able to be there for 2 nights and I wondered briefly if it was "worth it" for only two nights.  I got quite spoiled by the two week visit last fall.  Then I realized that keeping up the family tradition outweighed my disappointment in spending such a short time there.  After all, it only takes a few deep breaths to suck that sea air fully into your lungs as you turn your face to the wind coming off the water.  Ahhh.....

This You Tube video  appeared on the Good Morning Gloucester Blog.  If you love Gloucester and you haven't checked this out yet--you should bookmark it today and check it often.  I love listening to the podcast as well just because I miss hearing the accent and the general outlook on life so typical of Gloucestermen.

Here are some of my Gloucester scenic pictures and I hope you'll just enjoy the scenery and reminiscing about past trips--most of the epic:  Uncle Tim's wedding, Cathy's wedding, family reunion.  I am so looking forward to my next long term visit!.

Eastern Point Lighthouse and Breakwater

All those ROCKS!

Classic Twin Lighthouses across the water

Rockport holds its own in beauty

Babson Boulders Dogtown

Homie looking for lunch

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Brother and Sisters

The house across the street from us was sold recently and the new owner has been harvesting the woods for lumber.  It's been so quiet over there for so long that I'd gotten very spoiled.  The activity and noise startles me nearly every time but I suppose we'll adapt.

It's the sound of the chainsaw that takes me right back to Oliver Street Silver Creek.  I was trying to nap and the chainsaw noise woke me or kept me from falling back to sleep.  Whenever I hear that sound, it takes me right back to my 3 year old self.  I can feel myself in that bed--for some reason it was a big bed--maybe Mom and Dad's.  Chainsaws = naps.  Go figure.

Anyhow, I thought it might be fun to look at some old group pictures for this blog post.  I'll apologize to Judy right off that I have more without her than with her.

 Fella loving on Weenie

 I'm apparently rocking the Popeye look

 There's Judy.  Look at Mary Jane's hair!!  Can you remember how that couch fabric itched?

 Weenie really had a lap-ful here.  He looks very happy.

 Aww.

 I like this one especially.

Yo! Cowboy!!  Paula looks very proper here.

Miss you all.