This is one of the pictures I got from the old slides. Now, who is this? I immediately took this to be Paula and labeled the picture accordingly. Then, like the good researcher and librarian that I am (all right--pain in the butt), I noticed the slides are all labeled May 1960 and it is very doubtful that this is a 2-3 month old baby. Much more likely this is a baby just a little over a year old--therefore our dear Kathy. And when you see the remaining slides it becomes obvious that this is indeed Kathy. I am struck by how much she resembles Paula as a baby. What do you think? It's a lesson to me not to be too hasty in identifying and labeling pictures.
Issues of identity are on my mind lately. Some of it is due to the fact that Jim's nephew Jake recently married Lindsay. Now she's Lindsay Dalpiaz. Jim's oldest brother has a daughter Lindsay--Lindsay Dalpiaz. There was some discussion about how Lindsay Dalpiaz felt about Lindsay Dalpiaz having her name. Lindsay was thoughtful enough to say something to Lindsay expressing her concern that Lindsay might be upset that there was another Lindsay. I wasn't as thoughtful when I married Jim creating another Pat Dalpiaz. Lindsay Dalpiaz was saying it was kind of bothering her to share her name with Lindsay Walker Dalpiaz. Never dawned on me that Pat Dalpiaz might not want to share her name with Pat Ryan Dalpiaz. I feel kind of bad for not being more considerate of Pat's feelings.
Regarding Patricia Dalpiaz, more and more I resent that bureaucracy INSISTS that I am Patricia A. Dalpiaz. I am not. I do not use my middle initial at all myself and never have. It's not that I mind my middle name or anything, I just like Patricia Dalpiaz (most Patricia's are A anyhow). That's my name. I feel like I should control it and not some bank or credit card or cable company. Shouldn't we get to pick our identity? Why is some nameless third or fourth party deciding what my name should be? It isn't Barack H. Obama, is it? Love and kisses, Patty Anne
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Well, I was fooled at first also! But after I opened the picture to look at it in a larger view I can definately see Kathy's face. I guess there is something to be said for family resemblence. What a beautiful dress she has on! Don't you think?
As far as the subject of identity goes, I must admit, I never think about it much. I used to be frustrated when a credit card or bank would push me to use a middle ititial, but it wasn't because I didn't want to use one. It was because I never knew which one to use! Mom always used "M" for her birth middle name. But I liked using the "R" for Ryan. As it turns out I use the "C" for my birth middle name...mostly because a bank made me. I feel like I loose my identity, by loosing the Ryan part of my name. So I get what you are saying about having a third party decide. I just always thought I should have been more forceful when I was opening my checking account when I was a newly married, 18 year old! Have a good day from Paula Catherine Marie Ryan O'Brien
HELL, IT WOULD BE EASIER TO JUST NOT HAVE A MIDDLE NAME, OH THAT'S RIGHT, I DON'T!!!!!!!!!!!!!! CHRIS
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